I've decided.....

I am going to try and cool out on meeting new people...scratch that I mean men. I'm always up for meeting a new movie partner, or girlfriend to gossip too. But I am cooling for now on the new men. I think right now I am dealing with my fair share of them. Lets see there is Mr. A, Him( a girls got needs), possibly Philly dude.

This decision has come from the two first "dates" I had with 6'9 and CM( who had the nerve to text me at 7 this morning...7, out his damn mind). They were tragic, and I don't know if my mind can take much more of the foolery. Although I have not had a first date with Philly and definitely not Jersey, judging by the conversations thus far, I do not think they will be total disappointments--there is always potential for disaster.

Well it is July 4th weekend coming up and I am sure that I may meet a guy or two, but I am going to work on leaving the conversation at the bar,club,restaurant. Unless of course there is this unbelievable spark that has me sooo drawn to the person....then I will break my decision....and hopefully only then.


BTW....my friend and I are doing a singles mixer in the next few weeks. Hit me up if you or someone you know maybe interested.

revised: if your wondering what happend to the 4th...lets just say I spoke to soon... hey ish happens

no dates so far....revised

so, I haven't had any dates set up so far....

But, for some reason, the dude from Philly had been texting me faithfully the past three days. The texts have been of nothing deep. However it is weird because I meet him a month ago and this is the most we have spoken in the whole month. I was starting to forget about him. I don't really know what to say to him, one because the spark has kind've gone. If it wasn't for facebook I wouldn't remember what he looked like. Two, I don't know when I will see him next. Its not like we talk on the phone, we just have random, good mornings, or how are you text. When I do make the pilgrimage to Philly I have more important people to see. How will I make time for him too. I need to figure this out...after a few more text conversations that are a lil more deep. At this point he seems like just a friend.

Also, despite so many people telling me what to say, I have yet to tell 6'9 that this is going NOWHERE. I know I should tell him that I'm back with my ex, but for some reason since I am a loving person, I just cant seem to answer the phone every time he calls. That's right he is still calling, almost a week later. smh. And he leaves voice mails, yes voice mails. *sigh* eventually I will tell him sorry but this isn't going to work. Just a little worried of his reaction.

Oh and CM hasn't text back. Good, don't want to have to tell two people to kick rocks.


Also the same night I meet the interesting man in the club, I also meet another guy who I will call Jersey( he's from there). Well, interesting thing about him is, he just kissed me while I was going in for a hug goodbye. Now this isn't the first time I have been kissed in a party. The first time was a mutual happening. This time.....was all on dude, and I wasn't to happy about it, I mean I didn't know him at all, and as my friend says "Bam, herpes"( she silly, I know). But we are starting a text conversation. I started it.

So far he seems like a real cool dude( im serious this time)...and I have to admit, the kiss was kinda good too

HA! Funny I just spoke on the whole text thing, now I'm starting to understand. At least in the first stages of getting to know someone. Its convenient, you can hold a conversation anywhere....

Club Chronicles....1

I thought I wouldn't have anything to write about for a while, since I don't have any new dates, or second time dates lined up yet. But after experiencing some crazy stuff in the club last night for my friends bday, I decided I do some post on the craziness that happens in the club.

I'm starting to appreciate people showing there craziness from jump. Before a date, because I have had a few horrible first time dates.

Now to the meat.....

So first crazy of the night....Homie had his friend come up to me and say "its his bday, and he thinks your cute"(or something to that nature). I say happy bday n blah blah. I walk away after because I'm not really interested. But my song comes on( cant remember which one, I have a lot), so I grab him and start dancing. By then I need another napkin from the bar because I'm hot. He walks to the bar as well, and tries to make a funny...."hey I'm the bday boy, I'm pose to be at the bar" x_x.

This is when I start to shake my head.....

He tells he didn't get to examine me( whats up with dudes and this stuff), he's a doctor and this is what he does. I told him that I am perfectly healthy. *skipping a few lines*. I say well doctor how old are you today. He says...I'm not really a doctor, I'm a banker. I say why did you lie then..." that was apart of the g."....(you know sometimes I wonder). I say why lie then, its not like I care about what kind of job you have. He proceeds to tell me how he is the creme of the crop because he has no kids, a job and a car...you know I had to shut him down...I tell him that I have meet many men who make those same credentials.

Once again I ask his age, dude uses his fingers say that he is 27( why the hand gestures and not words is beyond me). I say what's wrong with 27, him: its close to 30, me: 30 means wisdom, him: I have been wise since I was 17....me: X_X.

And this is how it ends:

I say what is your name again...because I don't remember to well. He take his sweet time to think, then says Prince, I know this not his name because it doesn't sound remotely similar. I say whats your real name, a pause again, John Paul Anthony( I'm saying the name because I honestly do not think that is his name either). I ask to see how i.d. and he proceeds to give me some kind of excuse. I say I'll be back..and that was the end of that.

Why I had a full conversation with homie is beyond me, maybe it was to be "nice", since it wasssss his bday.

CM

I met up with CM. He is a cool dude, who's passionate (in a way) about his job. I learned lot about what he does, and now I kinda have a new found respect for the work( lets see how long that last). We meet up and went for drinks, I told him I was searching for the new Absolute Brooklyn and that my mother and I want the bottle to keep. So he goes and buys it for me. Great saves me money, that bottle is not little, which means its at least $13( remember im jobless). Since my mother just wants the bottle we had two cups of it. There is a drink that goes with it called the stoop- real good. By this time we are hungry and go get a quick bite to eat.

We end the date with a little kissing session. Mmmmm, he can't kiss too great, but its workable. I got to feel his body. Now I know I'm not all that in shape-but, I do believe that men should have a completely flat chest, unless they are pecks, and the tummy needs to be flat or slightly round...not flubber. I know, it sounds bad to think, sorry. Well, CM's body is not really hitting it. But I guess I shouldn't be shallow. He did mention that he gained weight once he stopped smoking. (I know I am a little wrong.) Ok, I'll take the tummy, but the mosquito bites...idk. However he is cool otherwise. I think a date number two maybe on the horizon.

Before I forget, right before I got ready for my date, a guy from Philly who I meet a month ago called to say he was in town. I didn't plan to stay with CM so long, and missed seeing Philly guy. We text early in the morning, he fell asleep that night, and I for sure wasn't getting up so early to link with him. So I guess we will have to wait til I make the pilgrimage back to Philly for a weekend.

ok so(lol)

I did it, I called construction man(CM). I lied and said I was out of town, and hadn't been able to call him. We spoke about his job, amongst other stuff. He seems like a cool dude. He asked if we could meet up. I had already planned on going out but he wanted me to call when I was done. I called round 1030, no answer. He text back(mmm) like a hour later wanting to know if we were still meeting up. Hmmm lets see, its 1130= booty call hour. So I told him that I was helping my mother with something, and asked if we could link up tomorrow. I know sex is always on a mans brain, but that is way too soon. However he said ok to the meet up, lets see what happens.

Ive noticed that a few of the people Ive encountered always want to just meet up( is this another word for date), what happened to going to the movies, or drinks, or even a bite to eat. I'm sorry but I'm not that type of girl to just hook up that quick(although I have done it once, only once). But I cant completely assume that we wont do anything(CM and I), he may think of a plan. Or at least that's what I am hoping. I will not go his house, Ive done that already with 6'9.

Speaking of 6'9, he called while I was talking with CM...twice. I finally called back real late, he said he wanted to know if I got home safe( hmmm so why didn't you call that night, or even in the early afternoon). Well, I don't know how to tell him I don't want to go any further with him. He seems like a kid, and I don't know how to handle this. (suggestions would be nice)

Well, I'll see how this goes with CM. I hope I'm not disappointed.

Interesting

OK so I couldn't wait to blog about this date...lets just say it was interesting.

So, I meet him (6'9)at the train station, we went to Target to get a movie. Let me tell you, two indecisive people together is not a good mix(most of the time). Well it took a while to pick out a movie, I just picked two up and said here.

Here's question mark one... he tells me to hold one of the DVDs while he pays for the other...then he steals the one that I'm holding. Now I understand times are hard, but do you have to expose your dirt on the first "date"...damn.

Well we go to get subways(he pays), then we go back to his place to watch the movie. He has an odd living arrangement, but I won't go into that. Question mark two, he puts the DVD in but the sound on his TV doesn't work, after countless hitting of the TV and pulling out the plug, the TV finally works and we begin to watch the movie(umm...yea). Halfway through the movie he trys to start up a conversation, umm excuse me but the movie is on. Maybe its because I was already on the defense that I didn't really want to talk.

He gets a lil upset that I'm not paying full attention to him so I pause the movie. The conversation was OK until...he starts "analyzing" me (as he calls it) question 3. He checks my hair, hands, face,complexion....like really...ughhh. So then he proceeds to show me Niki Minaj...WHAT(question 4). I told him that was kinda rude, he makes up an excuse that I'm "sexy" like her....mmmm no. He then shows me pictures of himself on his ipod, and shows his white contacts, that he thinks are SOOOO hot...no no no! ( oh and I must not forget the basketball pics on the wall that he had to point out like I couldn't see them, and to top it he kissed himself on the arm)

I honestly dont know how I sat there and listened to his conceitedness without cursing him out(although I did become uber sarcastic). Moving on, we go back to the movie, but I can tell he wanted to say something, he asked if I was seeing anyone, I say I'm dating. Then he asked who have I been with...WHOA...I say no one you know, and I was in a long relationship...he says when did it end...a few months ago(me). He falls back like he's hurt...mmm oh well. I continue to watch the movie.

5 mins or so later he says, would it be ok if I could feel how soft your lips are....LMFAO....I told him was corny, and try again next time. He laughs realizing he doesn't have real game( or at least I hope thats what he was realizing). I leave after the movie, we hug goodbye, but I can tell he was a lil upset about the kiss. So me being the dumb chick that I am at times, I give him a peck. What the hell was I thinking you ask...I dont know. It was real real quick, when I got in the station I wiped my lips off...( I know, Im wrong).


NOW..here's my take on this....

1. Homie is way too conceited, he thinks he's hotter then a day in August. Sorry to say, his height will only take him so far...

2. I appreciate being told that I'm good looking but in a lil more classier way, instead of just saying I'm sexy all the time, expand your vocab...thanks

3. Don't show the girl your with another girl...like who does that

4. If your so big and bad, why was it so hard to lean in for a kiss, or at least come up with a better line

5. Don't show your shit so early....DAMN

so after talking to my friend, she points out that he's probably young, that's why he wouldn't tell his age....hmmmm...that could explain some stuff

Idk but I think he maybe placed in the Friend box...he has some growing to do...

Is it too late

Ok, so there is this guy I meet almost three Saturday nights ago in the train station. He works as one of the construction people. Well sadly I didn't call. I wanted to but I haven't. That would be cool if I wasn't still thinking about it. Maybe its the nice girl in me, or just a sign that I need to call.

So one of my girls suggested I call and say I went on vacay...hmmm not a bad idea, but now I would have to keep up with that lie. Is it good to already start on a lie, I mean granted I'm not looking for a love connection here but still....

I don't completely know what to do. I know that I want to call. Maybe I'll just say I was occupied or something(no that doesn't sound good). I'll call, and see what happens from there. If its nothing, I'll survive and chuck it up as another-one-bite-the-dust.

Oh and chill time with 6'9 is today. He called last night while I was out with some friends. I told him Ill call back. Got in late but called anyway just so he could see that I did. Problem is, when he called I didn't get happy at all, I didn't want to really talk to him....mmmm.....I don't know. I'll see how this goes

IDK bout this one....

OK, so the other day in Forte Greene while waiting for the bus, I meet the tallest man I've seen just walking the streets of Brooklyn. He is 6'9, and I will call him just that. Well we started up a real good conversation while I waited for the bus( he was going to get Chinese). When my bus came I decided to give him my number, since the conversation was so good.

Well, I was actually worried that he might not call...OK maybe worried is a little extreme of a word, but I was concerned. I thought maybe I should have gotten his number too, that way we both would have been on an equal playing field.

Well he did call the next day, and like I thought, the conversation started good. He had me laughing, which is always a plus. ( Did I mention he was Trini, pure breed too...mmmm). Well things were going good until.....

He added me on Facebook( Lucifer at work), he went through my tagged pics and stuff, and keep pointing out how mch he loved my profile pic. So we made plans to meet in the evening on Wednesday, just to chill a little, we are both in school and jobless. I didn't mind just chilling, I understand that NY can be expensive, esp since its not July yet(which is when the free stuff starts) .

So this is when it starts to get shaky, 6'9 starts to tell me how he wants me to dress, wear my hair and make-up for this little meet and greet. WHAT?!?!?! if your thinking that, that's exactly what I was thinking. He wants me to wear heels and a colorful top, my hair blown out and makeup( including foundation, blush, the works). All of this just to chill. I thought I was hearing things. So I interject and say, that's real iffy trying to tell me how to dress, so he the started to eliminate things, but still wants me to wear make-up( in this heat, just to chill).

Just when you think that was it, it gets even worse. Homie won't tell me his age, weird right. I asked if he was over 18, then 21, and when I got to 25...he acted as if her couldn't hear me....mmmmm yeaaaaaa.

So now I'm at a crossroad, al-freakin-ready. Like he's a great person to talk to, and he is tall...but those demands or rather request were a bit much for me. But I've decided to still go on the outing, even if its one time. This way I can decided if I should put him in the Dating or Friend box.....


Time will tell...

my thoughts...am I moving too fast...

OK, so its been three months since the end, and Im already talking to new people and mingling. It sounds all good, but Im starting to wonder if I started to early. I mean me and Him were together for a long time, and I dont know if I've actually given myself time to completely assess the relationship. (oh I forgot to mention that I actually went to see a therapist a month after the end, I think thats why Im more over it then I thought I would be). But anyway....

I don't think Ive had time to just think of only me at all times, esp since I'm already starting to like( not good) one of the people. I'm suppose to be giving myself a year to be single, then after that if something is to happen OK, if not hopefully I wont be complaining. But since I kinda like this guy..lets call him Mr. A(at least for now, details about this lata), I'm not sure about my deadline.

screw it, I'm sticking to it. And I think I'm going to fall back a little on Mr. A. Just a tad, I like him and I wouldn't mind him being there after the year mark. But as for talking to other men, mmm...maybe a date or two but nothing really more then that(unless there's some like DEEP chemistry that we both cant shake). I need to just be alone, for now. And finally get my life together...I have so much to worry about(getting a job, grad school etc), and men can complicate it all.

ok so theres my peace about that....mmmm...for now..

this will be the last time I explain this....

....well I hope its the last.

I will not name people on this, its rude to do it, and more fun to give nick names. So I will just call him...him, or at least for the time being.

ok, so here's the story that I am willing to tell. There comes a point in a relationship when you start to question why, and why doesnt have to be about one thing, or everything. Well I came to that point a couple of times in the last few months. And in the last month when we "ended", I really thought about why and concluded that I didnt want to ask the question any more...so I ended it, for real this time.

Three months later, and its getting easier, and I am more comfortable with my decision. Him and I have met a few times, and its been cool. I dont know, if he's comfortable yet tho, but in time he will...

I hope I can keep up with this

So this is my first post....mmmmm...interesting.

I've been a blog reader for a while now, I read everything from gossip sites, to dating, to life, to clothes, everything. I've always admired those who had the ability to do this. For a long time I felt like I couldn't. I'm no writer, I'm not as good as those I follow. But now my life is turning a little, and I figured this was a much easier way to tell you all(most likely y'all are my friends) all that is going on in my life, without having to repeat my story a million times.

The purpose in me doing this is because as a new college grad, soon-to-be grad student and a freshly new single girl, I am changing or learning new things about being a Woman. So I decided to document everything, so that years from now I can look back and LAUGH at all the dumb sh*t.

The thing is I've always tried to keep a journal but it never worked.....Well here goes....